Kim Michaels' Announcing his new "oneness" with Helen Parmas and separation from his wife.
Dear community members,
Yesterday (Wednesday) Lorraine sent an announcement to a small group of people, explaining that she and I have decided to end our marriage.
I suggested that we write a short joint statement to the rest of the community and then each explain our views of the situation. In our last communication, she expressed a desire to withdraw from the community and thus wanted me to make this general announcement, which I am hereby doing.
I realize this will be somewhat of a shock to you and the first question is always, “Why?”
I hope you can see that after 20 years of marriage, there is not a short, simple answer to this question. Many factors could be mentioned, and one could probably fill a small book with it all. However, I have no desire to go into too much detail and certainly have no desire to accuse Lorraine or defend myself.
What I would like to do is to briefly explain my view of the situation and what this means for my continued service and the community.
Let me start at the impersonal level. I have always been aware of cycles. I have noticed that over the last year, the Masters have been talking about the community being on the brink of a breakthrough, and it has always been oneness that has been the key ingredient.
After New Year’s I felt a cycle was turning and I knew it would mean a change in my relationship with Lorraine. However, I didn’t have a clear vision of what that meant. I was also extremely busy with remodeling the house for the school, and since everything seemed to be on a track with Shangra-la and the property, it was difficult to implement any changes. I didn’t feel I could come to my spouse and talk about changes if I didn’t have a clear reason. So I ignored the inner promptings, for which I take responsibility.
However, I feel that now the cycle has definitely reached the tipping point, and thus it can no longer be ignored. I believe this is our community’s test and opportunity to transcend separation and move higher in oneness. Thus, anything that is not oneness must be flushed to the surface and dealt with.
Now for the more personal level. As some of you know, I have always been very impersonal with the women in Shangra-la. I obviously know how sexual attraction can play tricks on us and I have not wanted to encourage any kind of attraction. I also know that a woman can fall in love with the light that is part of my mantle as messenger and thus beyond me as a person. So, therefore I have been very impersonal in even my view of the women in the community and also in my interactions.
However, two years ago, a person came to a conference and I instantly recognized a deeper spiritual connection. Because she is a woman I simply pushed it aside and had my normal impersonal interactions. Whenever I have seen her at conferences, I simply surrendered any sense of a deeper connection or interaction.
This person then came to the School of Being this summer, and as we interacted, I realized it was necessary to stop denying a deeper connection. This past Sunday we both recognized that there is an underlying oneness that transcends anything outer, including the man-woman dynamic. We felt it was time for this to be recognized and that it could be expressed in many ways and certainly without a physical relationship. So we didn’t talk about anything concrete about our relationship and did not have an affair - though there seem to be assumptions or rumors about this.
But I did feel a need to talk to Lorraine openly about this, as I didn’t want her to make assumptions. So I described this as honestly as I could, and she did react more apprehensively than I expected. One conversation led to another and within a day we had agreed to end our marriage. I realize this will sound like a rash decision, but this is how it turned out. And given my sense of cycles, I do see a larger purpose and almost an inevitability in the wheels turning.
What I have realized since then is that this is the essence of the new cycle. I have since recognized that I have the same spiritual oneness with Melissa and several other people. My conclusion is that there is a group of people within Shangra-la who have this oneness, and we are here to take the community to the next level. We do not need to achieve this oneness. It is already there in the spiritual realm, we simply need to recognize it and acknowledge what that means for our interactions.
I am therefore asking you to consider whether you are part of this group by looking at the entire situation from the perspective of oneness. What takes us out of oneness and what brings us closer to it. To me this is not a matter of continuing business as usual, We cannot put humpty-dumpty back together. We need to transcend to a new level by coming into oneness.
When you look at this objectively, you can see several non-oneness scenarios. So I feel we are being called to choose this day whom we will serve—oneness or separation.
In terms of the practical, I naturally intend to keep serving as a messenger as long as the masters want me to. Last I heard, Lorraine intended to not go to Russia, but Melissa and I will still be there. I also plan to go to Leeds in the fall. I will, of course, continue the three websites I am running.
Yesterday Lorraine told a portion of the community that she intended to close the School of Being and sell the property or sign it over to me but today it seems like she wants to continue the school and keep the property. The practical reality is that I have no ownership of the property (the deed is in Lorraine’s name) and I have no personal attachments either.
The old order has passed away, and whatever new order emerges will very much require an entirely different level of participation from community members.
Again, I encourage you to consider everything in the light of oneness and also consider that separation can be very subtle. If you see anything that is anti-oneness in me, I welcome your input as I welcome practical suggestions on how to proceed with the community.
In Unconditional Oneness,
Kim